As humans, we rely on groups to help us feel safe, cared for, and protected. However, living in groups will ultimately result in occasional conflicts and disagreements. Such disagreements can cause stress, anxiety, tension, and other mental health problems. Therefore, it is crucial to know how to navigate disagreements in a healthy and effective way so you can continue focusing on the important, positive things rather than devoting your energy to negativity and arguments. Consider these tips as you navigate disagreements between yourself and others in your life.
Take a Breather
In the heat of the moment, when emotions are running high, it is never a good idea to solve a disagreement. More than likely, you and the other person are going to say things you don’t mean and make the situation worse. If you are experiencing a disagreement, it is better to walk away and allow yourself to calm down first. This will help you think more clearly rather than relying solely on your emotions.
Identify the Disagreement’s Root Cause
Once you have calmed down, it is easier to strip away any emotions and identify the sole root of the problem is. Doing so will allow you to understand if you are in the wrong or come up with ways to effectively solve the disagreement.
Consider the Other Side
Once you have calmed down, you can begin analyzing the disagreement so you can understand it better. For example, considering the other person’s side can clarify where they are coming from, why they think that way, and what you would do if you were in their shoes. Doing so will allow you to see things from a different perspective and work out how you can come to an agreement.
Explore Solutions With the Person
Once you have had a chance to calm down and analyze the disagreement, you can begin brainstorming solutions to the issue with the other person. During this discussion, you should be firm but gentle. You can both discuss what each person wants and possible solutions to get there. If necessary, you can bring in an impartial third party to help. You may not get 100% what you want in the end, but finding a solution that works for everyone will diffuse the situation and allow you to get on with your lives free of stress, anxiety, and tension.
Disagreements with others are a natural part of life that you will face from time to time. They can lead to tension, conflict, and stress, thus taking a toll on your mental health. Therefore, knowing how to navigate them effectively will help boost your mental health and interpersonal relationships. At Alta Loma Transformational Services, we provide our clients with the tools they need to succeed in mental health and substance use recovery. Interpersonal relationships are a significant part of the healing journey, and we can help you navigate them in healthy ways. Call us today at (866) 457-3843.