Some people have trouble confronting someone knowing it will bring them anxiety and dread, whether telling someone they need to put the dirty dishes in the dishwasher or letting someone know they hurt their feelings. Instead of dealing with these conversations head-on, some people prefer to put off these conversations or avoid them altogether. However, it is best to be brave when you are ready and gently ease into a confrontation to avoid holding negative feelings inside and worsening your anxiety.
Confrontation Does Not Have to Be a Bad Thing
Your anxiety may cause you to view these impending confrontations as heated arguments and doomed relationships; however, confronting someone does not always look like this. Confrontation can be healthy when it is approached in a kind but serious way. When you confront someone, it does not have to be a screaming match that ends in a broken relationship. It can be an honest conversation that brings you closer or shows the deep concern you both have about the situation.
Focus on What You Have to Say
When you focus so much on how the person will react to what you have to say, it is easy to lose sight of the purpose of the conversation. Spend some time clarifying your feelings before you start the conversation. Be specific by listing everything that is bothering you and what you wish was fixed. It may even help you to write down this list in case you need to refer back to it if you lose your train of thought.
Reward Yourself for Facing Your Anxiety
Once you confront this person, pat yourself on the back for what you did. Maybe you wanted to yell, but you kept a respectful tone when speaking. Give yourself credit for confronting this person now instead of letting this drag on for months. Even if the result was not what you wanted, you know you did the right thing by being brave and taking things head-on. You can treat yourself to a little something such as your favorite take-out meal, a movie rental, or anything else you like to indulge in. By confronting this person head-on with your feelings, you will relieve your anxiety, knowing you did something.
Confronting someone can be scary if you have an anxiety disorder. You may be scared of getting into a fight or losing that person completely. It is important to remember that confronting someone may not always be bad if you talk calmly with that person and think of what to say. At Alta Loma, we understand the struggles of anxiety and are here to help you. Our transformative treatment center in Georgetown, Texas, can provide you with individualized counseling, coping skills education, a long-term continuum of care, and much more. Call us today at (866) 457-3843 for more information.