Addiction often takes away time with your children that you wish you could get back. It can also strain the relationship you have with your children due to not being the parent you could have or should have been. However, there are ways to improve your parental relationship with your children following your addiction. If you want to be a better dad after getting sober, consider these tips.
Continue With Recovery
The best thing you can do to show your kids that you are serious about earning back their trust is to show that you are serious about recovery. Continuing to go to support group meetings, working the 12-Steps, meeting with your sponsor, and more can show that you are genuinely working towards improving your life and leaving addiction in the past.
Be a Positive Role Model
Remember that children look to their parents for guidance. If you are out using drugs or alcohol, they will likely follow suit. Instead, set an example by exercising, eating healthy foods, focusing on your work or school, and being open to talking about mental health. Engaging in these activities will prompt your child to mirror you and engage in the same healthy activities.
Give Them Space
It is understandable if your child is not ready to rebuild their relationship with you yet. Rather than forcing them or getting upset, acknowledge their decision and give them the space they need to heal. Let them know that you love them and will always be there for them and that you will be ready to welcome them back into your life when they are ready.
Follow Through on Commitments
While you were struggling with addiction, you might not have been the most reliable person. If your child had a sports game or recital, you might not have been there to cheer them on. Now that you are sober make it a priority to follow through on your commitments and be there for your child at their special events. They will be thankful to have a father who supports them and their interests.
Learning how to reconnect with your child after addiction is no easy feat. However, you most likely want to regain those lost moments by being there for them now. To be a better dad in recovery, you need to learn how to put your child’s needs first and show them that you are serious about recovery. You want to be a reliable father than they can depend on. If you find yourself lost during this time, call Alta Loma Transformational Services today. We can help you rebuild that relationship over time. Call us at (866) 457-3843.